What’s the connection between pre-marital sex and adultery?
June 29th, 2007 by 
catholicwriter
I remember a friend of mine once told me about discussions she had with her other lady friends. They were of the opinion that if their husband had an affair with another woman, they would immediately leave him. And these were the same women who saw nothing wrong with pre-marital sex.
Why is it alright for their husband-to-be to have pre-marital sex, but not for their husband to commit adultery? Aren’t they really the same thing?
Pre-marital sex is committing adultery in advance. It lets you know something about your boyfriend or girlfriend - he or she is willing to have intercourse with someone who isn’t married. What makes you think that is going to change after you’re married?
The only reason people are having a lot of pre-marital sex is because they have access to contraceptives. Pregnancy is a deterrent to having pre-marital sex.
But guess what? Pregnancy is also a deterrent to adultery. If it is okay to use contraceptives in pre-marital sex, it will be okay to use it in adultery as well… which makes the rates of both pre-marital sex and adultery soar.
It is hypocritical to say that adultery is wrong but pre-marital sex is okay, because both essentially do not respect the marital bond. In both cases, people who are not married to each other are having sex with each other.
If that marital bond is not honoured and respected before marriage, there’s no reason to expect it to be honoured and respected after marriage.
Posted in Adultery, Contraception, Marriage, Pre-marital sex, Sex | 
November 20th, 2007 at 8:18 pm
i started having sex with my boyfriend before summer started and i really wish i was still a virgin. if i stop now and dont do it again til marriage will i still be saved and go to heaven?
November 22nd, 2007 at 2:40 am
Hi caroline,
Yes! All of us have committed sins that are so terrible that we deserve to be lost forever, but Jesus came to save all sinners. ALL sinners. That means you and me, regardless of whatever sins we have committed.
Here are a couple of articles that I found that are good reading. I think that the first one applies very much to what you are looking for. The second one, however, goes much deeper into what virginity really is, and how we really lose it.
http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/2001/001/8.38.html
http://www.beliefnet.com/story/203/story_20329_1.html
Hope this helps! Trust in God’s goodness.
God bless,
Catholic Writer
December 27th, 2007 at 1:16 pm
Catholic writer, I hate to break this…but I think caroline might be using some sarcasm. I don’t know and I do mean this respectfully. I don’t find this post at all convincing. Its confirmed my beliefs which are different from yours.
December 27th, 2007 at 1:44 pm
Hi A,
I realise that caroline could have been using sarcasm when I replied to her, but I also thought, “What if she’s not?” Because what she wrote is not something I’m unfamiliar with. I’ve seen it genuinely asked elsewhere before.
Furthermore, if someone else who chances across this site and has a similar experience that is genuine, I believe the response would be helpful for him or her.
May I ask you, respectfully as well, to share with me what is it about the post do you not find convincing? And if you could, perhaps you could share your beliefs with me?
Thanks and God bless,
Catholic Writer